What can I do?
I'm often asked the question, "My friend has just had a loss. What can I do to help?"
Of course, each person's loss is unique, as is their response to it. A miscarriage is different from an ectopic pregnancy, which is different from a stillbirth, which is different from the death of an infant. Not that one is harder or easier, but each is different. Not only that, but my miscarriage is not the same as my friend's or my co-workers or your sister's.
Proverbs 14:10 says it well: "Each heart knows its own bitterness, and no one else can share its joy."
That said, there are some things that specifically seem to bring comfort to a grieving mother after the death of her baby at any stage of pregnancy or infancy. Some things that helped me, especially after the death of Naomi:
If you have had a loss, what specific gestures from friends were comforting to you? Share in the comments below.
6/3/2013 04:38:23 am
Cards, books on grief ( I recieved "Empty Arms", " A Rose in Heaven", and " Choosing to See", ) as gifts, meals from our church family, flowers, ect. One of the things that meant the most to me were cards that came months later. People basically telling me they still remembered, still cared, and were still praying.
6/4/2013 07:06:12 am
For my most immediate need, FOOD brought to our house was most appreciated. I didn't want to go in public, nor did I feel well enough to get dressed and go out. Food brought to us was wonderful. For other needs, recognizing those dates that are hard are so important for us -- the due date, the anniversary, Christmas, etc. Any recognition is appreciated - cards, texts, etc.
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Naomi's Circle News
Here you will find articles intended to help you in your journey. Some will be reviews of websites and books. Some will be devotionals, some general articles, and some will be guest bloggers. Feel free to comment and let us know if there is something you would like to see addressed here.
Week 1: Devotional
Week 2: General article about loss
Week 3: Testimony/guest blogger
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