Helping a friend survive the first year

There are a lot of articles out there about what not to say when someone loses a baby, or horror stories about people saying the wrong thing.  But in reality, in that moment, a lot of people say the right things.  Things like, "I'm sorry," or, "I'm praying for you."  Or they do the right things, like bringing by a meal, or sending a card, or giving a hug, or just sitting in silence.

It's in the days and weeks and months to come that it can be hard know what to do or say.  But that is sometimes the most crucial time for bereaved parents, when the funeral is over and family has gone home and they are struggling to find their "new normal", if that even exists.  What can a friend do then?

A friend of Naomi's Circle has written a wonderful article on her "No Holding Back" blog.  The article is called, "How to Help a Friend Survive the First Year After Pregnancy or Infant Loss." I hope you'll read it and then come back and comment here about what helped you in your first year. 

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